I define thriving differently than most of society

I cannot imagine a thriving life in which people are unhappy. There are so many rigid regimented beliefs out there, that are throwing the wrench into the way God meant for us to thrive. Yes, God is perfect. He is a Holy God of order, lawfulness and justice. This does not mean that children should not be heard for instance. This does not mean obeying certain standards or rules in order to be given access to the good life. Children should not be made to grow up too soon. This world needs a revolution and as God’s witness, I will do what I can to educate and influence the world to be a true place of peace, harmony and unity. Justice means different things to different people. It depends on what you define as right or wrong. Too many children are being told that they are wrong, bad and at fault when they are young, and then we wonder why kids are getting into trouble with premarital sex, drugs, disrespecting authority, gangs, crime etc. I can sure improve my parenting style too, but there are too many unhappy people not doing what God has called them to do. Jesus says that He came that we may have life and have it to the full according to John 10:10. Children should be given loving guidance as well as plenty of time to play and laugh. It is good for the relationships in the family as well.

The rat race is killing people. God commanded us to work in order not to be in poverty, but he did not mean doing something that makes you miserable in order to food food on the table. He meant for us to do what we really love deep down inside of us. It is easier said than done. Doing what you love requires sacrifice, hard work and heartbreak, but not because it is okay for people to be mean to you, or for your heart to be broken, or for conditions to deter your efforts. It means overcoming what is not okay to get where God wants you to be. The reality is that we live in a fallen world, and if we are not careful, we will be decieved into thinking that it being purposely challenging to have life life to the fullest is the way it is supposed to be. Yes, God uses challenges to make us stronger like the moth needing to break out of it’s cocoon. But at the same time, because we are in a fallen world, things are unnecessarily difficult. Too many people are making it harder for people than it has to be. I will get into details another time about what I mean, but it is our responsibility to overcome obstacles, yes even those we should not have had thrown at us, until this world becomes a better place. When I minister to the mentally ill, I will be implementing a two-way street policy of advocating for those with mental illness, while holding them accountable for their health and wellness. It doesn’t help though when society imposes standards to cause people to conform to what they are not in order to have a life! I believe in the standard of God’s Word! We are supposed to be merciful to our fellow man, hence my message of Mercy. Children need to learn to behave and have manners, but that does not mean using intimdation to force them to act like people they are not in order to get to do what they love. Access to nature, music, relaxation, good relationships, support as well as basic needs should be more freely given those who have the power to control resources. People with power, authority and resources need to remember that they were all given to you as gifts from God and therefore ultimately belong to God. Think about that next time you wish to impose rules to purposely make it harder for people to have access to things that give life to the soul!

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Making an Impact that Matters

I long so much to offer to others help that they really need. Meeting needs, comforting the hurting, soothing the troubled, helping others find strength. In other words, I long to be an instrument of God’s healing, (with Mercy at my side) impacting people’s lives for the better. If I don’t impact people’s lives for the better in my efforts to serve in love, how else will the world see Jesus in me? Being the hands and feet of Christ, touching those people He would touch. I want to touch lives in a way that will be of upmost importance, so that God may be glorified. I am still a servant in training. I am trying to do what’s right. I am trying to be kind to others. I am trying to serve others. I am trying to give to others. I want to use my talents, gifts, skills, kindness, compassion, mercy and grace to give others hope as well to show others how to imitate Christ. I am not looking for recognition, however, I want to see the looks of gratitude, relief, hope, comfort, tears of joy, hugs, celebration etc. from people as evidence that their lives were touched by Christ through me. My biggest deepest longing is to impact the world in a real way. It is what God wired into me. I have a hole in my heart filled with a tender longing to offer love, kindness, and help in a way that will really meet the needs of others. My dog Mercy is still in training, I am still a government employee, I still struggle with social skills, and I still struggle with low self-esteem. Making a difference in the lives of those who could really use what I have to offer is what I yearn for the most. My need to be needed but still yet not seeing how I’ve made an impact hurts. I have passion and fire in my belly for serving, for one thing by comforting others. I may not be there yet, but I am on the way. May the joy of the Lord be my strength. Prayers would be appreciated right now. I am struggling with the feeling that what I have to offer does not matter. But with God’s grace, I will overcome! I can do all things in Christ who strengthens me.

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Beginners and Comfort Dogs are to be welcomed as part of the Golden Retriever Enthusiast community.

I consider myself a Golden Retriever enthusiast. Over the years I have learned so much about them. I loe Golden Retrievers dearly. Mercy is in fact my first Golden Retriever. True, I do lack experience with her. My goal is for Mercy to reach the higest potiential as possible. My bigger goal yet, however, is to use her as a tool of evangelism to share God’s uncondiitonal love, grace and Mercy with others. No doubt, Goldens were originally bred as hunting dogs by Lord Tweedmouth. As with other sporting breeds, Goldens were bred and trained to retrieve water fowl. They have reliably retrieved for their masters for generations. They have also become to be known as faithful loving sweet natured companions. Understandably, we should do our best to preserve the Golden Retriever breed for it’s original purposes. At the same time, the companionship of a Golden has become much loved and cherished. They have been trained to be seeing eye dogs and service dogs as well. Due to their loving natures, they make wonderful therapy dogs and thye bring comfort to many hurting people. In my opinion, Goldens should be embraced more for the joy and cheer they give to troubled hurting poeple, whether their owners or clients visited as a therapy dog. I think an even better use for a Golden is to bring comfort to the broken hearted children out there. In light of the most recent tragedy, I applaud Luthern Church Charities for bringing their comfort dogs halfway across the country to visit with those people traumatized by the Sandy Hook Shooting.

Mercy is now 10 months old. In another post, I had said that I am currently struggling to get her her Canine Good Citizen. The CGC is due to become an official obedience title next year. I pray that with a little more work and effort, Mercy and I will do it, fo rit is a stepping stone to her becomming a therapy dog. I am still a beginner. Many people have owned Goldens for many years and generations. It is great to be a veteran Golden owner. At the same time, veteran Golden owners should understand the excitement and type of unique joy Goldens being to newbies. They should be willing to lovingly mentor beginner handlers, so that their dogs can reach their highest potential. There is much more deeper and wider meaning to Golden Retriever ownership than competition and earning titles, however. The relationships between Golden and owner and Golden and the people it meets are profoundly important. Just look at how the Comfort Goldens from LCC have touched the lives of these broken hearted families and children who knew those who were slain. More experienced veteran Golden owners should not look down upon rookie Golden owners, ignore or reject them. I wouldn’t call all therapy handlers inexperienced when compared to competition handlers, but more intently focused on a different mission. I agree that only Goldens that have been proven to meet the structural standards through confirmation and behavioral standards through obedience should be bred. At the same time people who are involved with Goldens should not allow competition, titles, and achievements or accomplishments get to their heads. There are too many Golden enthisiasts who are so involved with earning titles including hunting competitions, that they discount the other purposes and benefits that Goldens have become well known for as demonstrated by the group of Goldens and their handlers visiting the families in Newtown Conneticut for instance. For some, being a Golden enthusiast means seeing how many hunting titles they can achieve. For others just having foundational obedience for the purpose of having a great companion or using them to help others is plenty. There are some Goldens that have both obedience titles of various types that are also therapy dogs. There are many local Golden Retriever clubs as part of the Golden Retriever Club of America and the American Kennel Club in different parts of the country. Some of the people of these local clubs in my opinion are over the top when it comes to competition, achievement and titles rather than celebrating the Golden Retriever’s loving compassionate nature. Although bred for hunting originally, Goldens should be regarded as faithful loving companions that bring joy and cheer to people of all backgrounds first and the accomplishments made to prove their soundness as a dog true to it’s breed which includes hunting and athletic ability should be secondary.

I am all for protecting the breed and leaving breeding to the serious experts. There is overlap between Goldens making fine loving companions and reliable performance dogs. A breeder should always breed for temperament rather than looks. Reputable breeders who breed only sound dogs that have been proven through confirmation and obedience, tracking, and other types of accomplishments are to be applauded and most breeders agree with the rest of us that a Golden’s sweet loving nature is something to be cherished. There are many of us however that are content just to have a loving dog that we can enjoy with our families as well as train for a purpose. There appears to be different opinions, values, philosophies, interests between veteran Golden owners involved in clubs and those who are content with just the companionship of this wonderful breed. Not everyone is able nor wants to achieve JH, SH, MH WC or WCX titles. Granted, Mercy’s ancestors have WC and VC and VCX titles. My point is that there are Golden retriever owners and lover of various backgrounds and levels of experience. I am hoping to take both a subnovice class and a beginners agility class in the spring. While my greater goal is to train Mercy to be an excellent therapy dog, I wish to do my best in training her ot reach her fullest potential. I lament that there are not much programs in my hometown that help you prepare your Golden Retriever for it’s purpose. I have gone to various obedience classes that I have managed to find, but there is still a void. In my area there is a local Golden club, of which Mercy’s breeder is a member, that is based in a neighboring state, but covers my state as well. As if traveling long distance was not enough of an obstacle, the club consists of mostly older people with decades of experience under their belts who have mastered advanced obedience and/or hunting competitions. I just went to their Christmas party and hardly anybody wanted to get to know me or my goals for my Golden except for 2 club officers. As a beginner, I feel so out of place in this group of prestigious accomplished Golden owners. Golden clubs should consist of Golden owners of various backgrounds and obedience levels. There should be more diversity in these groups so that everyone can learn from each other. I want to get involved with Mercy to help her obtain basic or perhaps intermediate obedience titles starting with her CGC and maybe a beginner’s agility title as well as helping Mercy to be trained to be a therapy dog or more importantly her purpose to be a tool used for evangelism and God’s kingdom. There are also a lack of local kennel clubs are able to help me and Mercy. I am not giving up. I will try to see if I can be more involved with my club, but even more importantly help Mercy become the dog that God created her to be, a loving, calm, obedient ambassador for Christ who comforts troubled, hurting people who are in need of being soothed and comforted and to know about God’s love, grace and mercy including hurting special needs kids or troubled teens. My heart goes out to those people whose lives were affected by the shooting and I dedicate this post to them.

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A Golden will drop everything to spend time with you

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I am not where I belong

I have learned a lot over the past 20 years. Computers are cool to a certian extent. I have both a Bachelor’s and a Master’s of IT. 11 years ago, I would proudly tell people that I was an IT professional. Today though, I am miserable. I do not belong in my place of employment. I have not gotten a promotion or pay raise for the longest time, but that’s not what bothers me the most about my current position. I know I was meant for more than this. I have a life outside of the government. I have a son to raise and a dog to train for God’s work. Not only is it frustrating not having enough income, (See Still moving forward despite setbacks), but it is also frustrating not having enough time for those things that matter most. I have been praying to God for a new life while doing what I can in my power to get there. My passion is in Social Work. My passion is for the mentally ill and those with other mental disabilities. I belong in the community. I need to be engaged with others and the others with me. I need to be in full time ministry doing God’s work and influencing others for Jesus Christ. What am I doing here? I feel like stepping into a counseling, social work, social advocate, psychologist, or therapist’s position right now, but that is not an option. I am looking for Christian Universities where I can get a Master in Social Work on Line. I don’t want to just live for the next day off so I can be with my dog or serve others. I want serving others with compassion to be my daily life. I am still figuring out through prayer and soul searching how to get there, but alas, I don’t get enough time off or rest to do that, so I feel stuck. I feel like a wage slave getting up at 4:00 in the morning just to be bored stiff all day when there’s lots to be done at home. That’s no way to live. I am trying to work as unto the Lord and to have a better attitude. I chose the IT profession because I thought it would be fun. While I am no longer in an IT position per se, the work I do is still related to IT. God help me! I am on the verge of losing my sanity! I know God has a plan for me. I know He is up to something! I can’t take it anymore! This is a cry for help. I know people out there need me and my talents! It’s just a matter of finding them! If any of you have been in my situation, and have any ideas as to the steps I need to take to be able to move on, feel free to share.

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My son in need of help.

It has been made official by the final verdict of Joshua’s developmental pediatrician that he has Autism. My heart already goes out to special needs kids. I am passionate about them getting grace, mercy and the help they need. We will be fighting hard for Joshua to get the best of education and the greatest best of care all the more fiercely. We had suspected all along that something wasn’t right with our son. It intensifies my desire to use pet therapy to help special needs kids. Although my son and Mercy are working out their differences right now, I know they will be tight and inseparable in the years to come. I would gladly train Mercy to be a support dog for my son as well as a therapy dog. Our God is faithful. I know He has a great plan for our family. My dog’s CGC instructor also sent encouraging words to me. I am definately going to fight harder to get Mercy trained as she ought to be to help others including my son.

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Still moving forward despite setbacks

Despite sacrificing and taking time off from work and practicing hard with Mercy, we did not pass the Canine Good Citizen yesterday, which is a vital stepping stone if Mercy is to become a therapy dog. I am never giving up though. I will continue to strive to get into the ministry of sharing mercy, grace, peace, comfort and hope with hurting people who need Jesus. I still long for more time with my Mercy, to give her the right attention, love, affection, exercise, training, playtime, and companionship. Unfortunately, I commute to a job 30 miles and and hour and a half each way. My husband is home during the day, but wit the demands of our special needs son, he cannot give Mercy as much attention as I would like for him to. On top of that, we do not have enough income coming for our expenses. I also bummed out about how despite my greatest efforts, our finances brutally refuse to improve with either increased income or relief from bills or expenses. I want to be able to pay more to get help with Mercy’s training, but just don’t have it. It’s okay though.  I still am going to do the best that I can with the resources, time and money I do have. And besides I do need to focus more on my family and spending time with them. I choose to be a living testimony of someone who perserveres, overcomes, triumphs, and conquers for the kingdom of God. I will continue to practice with Mercy in her training whenever I can and continue to provide for my family and Mercy as best as I can. I expected things to be better than this by now. But it’s okay. God is working His purposes out. He is the answer to all of our problems. I have been feeeling more of God’s love and have been receiving support from an awesome church family. I am heavenly minded, seeking things of eternal value. God is up to something, I just know it. I will do whatever it takes to fulfill my calling no matter what! I am learning to be content whether abased or abounding. If God is for me, who dare can be against me. I will not be dismayed. God is so much bigger than my problems and limitations. He will glorify Himself in my weaknesses. He does not call the equipped. He equips the called. Where there is a will, there is a way and with God calling me to be heavenly minded peacemaker and motivational speaker, using Mercy as an instument of His love, nothing can can get in the way of that! He will make a way for me to be in full time ministry and still have our bills paid and our needs met. Shalom!

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Meet Jesus Christ the Best Judge of Character

Several men wanted to stone Mary Magdeline. But Jesus would have none of the condemnation from them to her. Only God can judge the heart. We have all sinned and fall short of the Glory of God. No one is righteous. But all Jesus requires is that we put our faith in him for our righteousness. Then we will do good deeds and behave properly because we love Jesus. We still miss the mark. Even though people miss the mark sometimes, they should still not be judged, condemned, faulted, blamed, disapproved or deemed as having a bad character. All Jesus is after is a sincere heart. We all have our issues. There are alcoholics, drug addicts, prostitutes, bulimics, and the like. Often when people who are struggling want help overcoming their iniquities, they will turn to the church or to an elder or clergy member, counselor or mentor etc. There are times when the truth is spoken, but not in love. And besides, I believe in grace before truth anyway. The grace part is to build the trust of the person  confiding in you , knowing that you are on their side. But some counselors often blurt out lectures, or advice based on disapproval of character, telling them that they have to __Fill in the Blank__, which implies that the person turning to this someone for help and support is not doing what he/she should. That in no way encourages a hurting person. It is a form of judging. Yes there are times when people are recovering from drug abuse or alcoholism, that when they promise to do better or express sorrow, that one should be skeptical in trusting in what they are saying as sincere. When people have already owned up to their mistakes, however, they don’t need to be told again to do so or doubted about having done so! When someone explains what is going on with them, they should be believed and taken seriously. When the counselor or mentor does not understand or believe the person, this is a form of disagreement as well as disapproval. They are doubting that the person’s heart is in the right place. Nobody is perfect. There are no perfect counselors. We all have our beliefs. But what should really matter to  is that both the counselor and troubled person are in agreement that there is a problem and that a solution is needed to fix the problem. Where there is no agreement, there is no trust or respect. This happens all to often between parent and child, teacher and child, between children, boss and employee, marriage partners, or counselor and adult or child counselee. It is staggering how the world thumbs their noses at Christians, how people land and jail or commit suicide. Hypocrisy is prevalent all too much in society as well as in the church. Parents scold children, bullies taunt students in school, teachers punish students, counselors have lack of compassion, bosses have lack of understanding, spouses argue. That my friend are all forms of disapproval and demoralization of people, therefore crushing their self-esteem and extinguishing any sense of righteousness they might have had. There is a time an a place where we need to correct people and chastise them. People do need to take responsibility for their actions and behavior. People need to be challenged when there is more they can do. They need to be rebuked if they are committing sins that they are not repenting or at least trying to repent of.

God knows best about what is going on inside us. God knows what’s in your heart, even if no one on the face of this planet believes you. As long as the person needing help sincerely wants what God wants in accordance to His Word, he should be listened to, believed, taken seriously, therefore resulting in agreement. Where there is no agreement or a disconnect, the counselor or other mentor, leader or authority figure cannot help the counselee get any better. What should matter is that there is something wrong resulting in troubles in the person’s life. That God’s will be done. That we want what God wants. That a way that works, a solution or answer to the problem is out there and is the right remedy for the situation. What matters is that church elders for example as well as the person needing help should both agree with God when it comes to the results sought after.

I was praying in my car to God that the elders of my church have mercy and compassion upon my husband. They they agree with what God is up to. That God would not lead us to a wonderful church only for them to not do what He wants. That they want what God wants for my husband. My husband has never been listened to or taken seriously or believed for most of the 54 years of his life by people. He has had to face lack of mercy, compassion and grace by others. Even though my husband’s lens are cracked a bit, that still doesn’t change the fact that no person he has met in the church body has wanted him to have the help and solution that he needs and God wants. This is sad indeed. But I am determined that the power of prayer works. I was going through a dry spell for 2 1/2 years where I could not laugh or cry about anything. Then Mercy came into my life. I have been laughing and crying more. My vision for not just our family but the world in general is finally taking shape. Peter needs a glimmer of hope when he meets with the elders, in that when he looks them in the eye and tells them that he wants to be rid of the problem of anger and fear that he is dealing with, they will respond with agreement, compassion and encouragement. This is what I was praying for in the car as I drove Mercy to her Canine Good Citizen class. I was shedding tears, begging God to show the elders of this wonderful church we found what is really truly wrong and can finally give my husband the hope and peace he has sought after his whole life! That they be in agreement with the fact that my husband is struggling with displacement of emotions and that he really wants the right solution that God also wants for him to help him overcome them, therefore agreeing with him. Then Peter can finally receive help from people whom he can finally trust. That the fact that he really truly wants to get well like the guy by the pool is in deed believed. Selah!

As I was crying out my prayers to God for His mercy for my husband and shedding tears, Mercy nuzzled me by leaning her head on my shoulder and trying the lick my tears from behind even though she was in the backseat and I was driving, keeping my face forward. What an awesome message of God’s love that Mercy will be for other people who are hurting. This is exactly what I was hoping for from Mercy. When Mercy comforts hurting people, they will meet Jesus Christ as they see her compassion, mercy and graciousness towards them. And then God shall be glorified! She will be an extension of the hands and feet of Jesus as I reach out to people and will be a blessing to all indeed!

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Longing for Purpose

My best friend visited her beau in the mental hospital today. In was in a pastoral setting, beautiful and divine. I could see a vison forming before my eyes in the form of my Golden Retriever being used as an ambassador for peace in Jesus Christ. I have visited mental patients with my last dog, a Lab German/Shepherd mix named Coal. My vision, a soothing retreat full of nature, beauty, music and animals with people loving each other in Christ Jesus our Lord. What could be better? I long for Mercy to be a comfort dog, easing the pain of lonely isolated people, who have no friends or loved ones. What joy I look forward to bringing to the mentally ill, at risk youth and special needs children. It will be joy, peace and love unspeakable.

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Why I named my Golden Retriever Mercy

I discussed in my very first post how Mercy got her name. One thing I had mentioned was that I had been given the spiritual gift of Mercy. I had hardly received grace or mercy from other people when I was younger. I long for relationships and to matter a lot to people. Because of what I suffered in my childhood, my thinking is flawed. I am still overcoming the brokeness suffered as a child due to the lack of grace and mercy as well as the rejection I have suffered. Jesus meets us where we are at, but he doesn’t leave us there. I still need grace, mercy and patience from other people while I am overcoming my brokenness. Yet because I long for the mercy I didn’t get enough of, I desire to share it with others. I struggle with extreme shyness and I am often too grumpy to speak to people at work for instance. It’s because I fear rejection and/or negative encounters. I therefore put a wall up a little too often. Yet deep down I long for engagement with others more than anything else. When I find someone who takes an interest in me, it’s like a breath of fresh air that I want drink in deeply. But there are often times due to my loneliness, that I inadvertently go to the opposite extreme and over intrude on people unknowlingly. I then find myself wondering why that person doesn’t keep in touch with me. Even though this might be faulty thinking, I don’t feel as though I am important enough to people. I lost both of my parents, so I am more needy of love from other people. It seems like the more I long friends, the more they run away from me. I feel hurt that people are not appreciating my warm offer of love, kindness and friendship and sometimes even faulting me for it. I long for the grace and mercy of others. This is why I am so passionate about the virtue of Mercy and why I long to share the message of Mercy with others through the use of my dog as a symbol of the love, grace, and mercy of Jesus Christ as well as educate others as to why they should be patient with lonely and broken people with less than desirable social skills.

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