I met Denise Pass at a women’s gathering through NorthStar Women’s Network studying a Christian book with several women sitting at each table. I did not actually meet her face to face at the gathering, but I remember her standing up at her table to answer for her group. After the gathering, Denise sent an e-mail to all of those who attended the gathering encouraging them to get in touch with her on Social Media. So I found her on FaceBook and friended her right away and she friended me back. I told her I was at the women’s gathering. I went to her home page and subscribed. I checked my e-mail periodically and my FaceBook. Since I signed up on her website for updates, announcements, etc., about a little over a week later, I got an e-mail announcement. I noticed that she had a conference on the 25th. I went back on FaceBook to find her and gather more information. At the time, I did not realize she had a Launch team FaceBook group for the release of her book. I wasn’t going to join at first, because I did not see myself as someone who was qualified to join the team. I saw a post she made saying that people would be entered to win prizes if they shared a photo. I tried to share the photo and she sent me a private message to inform me that I made a boo boo. I wrote back and had additional questions for her including her upcoming conference. We chatted for a while and she convinced me to sign up for the Shame off You Book Launch Team Facebook group. She also said that she hopes to see me on August 25th for the Unstuck from Shame conference at her church. Since then I have been closely following her on FaceBook and checking the Shame off You Book Launch Team group for updates. She asked her team members to paste her announcements to their FaceBook walls. One of the reasons why I got on board with Denise’s cause without hesitation is because I do often feel rejected, misunderstood, judged, shamed and unimportant like I don’t matter and that I am undeserving of God’s blessings. I got an advanced reader copy of her book and read it. While waiting for it’s arrival, I enjoyed communing with Denise on FaceBook, reading her posts, reading her blogs, listening to her podcasts, and watching her video presentations as well as commenting on them. I liked and loved her posts and she liked my loved my posts. Of course I also chatted with her from time to time via private message. Her warm radiant face as could be seen on her videos captivated me. I enjoyed her sweet, compassionate demeanor and her passion for setting women free from shame. I loved seeing her smile and her laugh is just wonderful!
Setting others from shame has become my passion too even though I still struggle with it. In fact my struggling with it makes me all the more adamant about changing lives in the way my life needs to be changed. I have promised God that I will pay it forward to others when He helps me and that I want my pain to become my passion when he rids me of my hurts, which are shame based. As for Denise’s book, it taught me a lot. This book speaks of the heartbreaking life she has had to endure. She reveals truths as to why we react with shame including not being accepted for example. She challenges readers to believe what God says about you instead of seeking approval from others. She explains why shame is rooted in fear of man, pride and insecurity, which cause us to believe we’re not good enough. She says how you need to read the bible about what God says about you since His opinion is what matters most. She uses biblical truth to show us how to change our beliefs about ourselves. A must read.
I finally attended her Unstuck from Shame Conference yesterday. It was wonderful finally meeting her face to face and hearing her speak. The worship songs were wonderful. Her teachings during the conference is based on her book, and I learned some new things as well. In summary, her definition of shame is an accusation against our soul that who we are or what we have is not enough. It was touching seeing how she spoke of God as her advocate as she recalled her time in court. I turned to her afterwards with some of my concerns and questions. She was gracious but firm when I told her that the voices of my past cause me to be susceptible to the formation of new messages in my mind when things don’t work out thereby causing me to feel that I do not deserve the things I am hoping for or wishing for now. She prayed for me, for she could see that I had a lot of baggage. It was awesome. I am still struggling to heed some of her teachings, but will not give up until I am fully freed from shame, healed of my hurts and made whole. It’s a matter of unlearning what I was taught and reprogramming my mind according to Romans 12:2, thereby changing my thoughts and beliefs. I visited her church this morning as well. Sadly, my husband and son had to leave during the service because of my son crying, but Denise was still very gracious telling me they were having breakfast downstairs and for my husband and son to join us. It was great introducing her to my son and husband. She tenderly said hello to my son even as he was wiping his eyes, and understands that he has autism.
I was so tired when I got home since I had to shop for school supplies and groceries on the way home from Denise’s church in Culpeper to my home in Manassas. I took a nap but not until I prayed to God about a few things. When I awoke from my nap, I discovered a new private message from Denise. It said:
I’m so thankful that God blessed me with this new divine connection, a sister in Christ. I had been begging God to bring divine connections into my life and Denise is an answer to prayer. It’s definitely a God thing! I hope to join forces with Denise in sharing the Shame off You message especially as I reclaim my identity as a daughter of the King.