Often times I struggle to be fit enough for some things. I often feel degraded then rejected and excluded from what is important to me for messing up even with those things I am passionate about. I have been dealing with a lot lately, but I will spare the details for now. We should not feel like have to measure up in order to be included in what is worthwhile to us. I have felt that way however, and consequently, I feel as though I have to strive for achievement in order to live a satisfying life. I often feel degraded and devalued and therefore don’t feel capable of pursuing my endeavors. It need not to be that way. I recently visited a beautiful church, and God told me inside the church that I am not supposed to be able to make my life better. That’s up to Him. I will also believe in myself in Jesus Christ

We are often taught social norms that are contrary to God’s teachings, and me end up with a works mentality or achievement mindset, which combines legalism with materialism. As a result, we strive for control out of fear of losing what is valuable to us. We end up chasing happiness, seeking it in the wrong places. So please, if your children make an honest mistake, please don’t accuse them of doing something serious, lest they feel shamed. It certainly doesn’t empower them. They don’t need to be feeling stressed about being good enough for what matters by the time they are grown up. Unfortunately, it has happened to me, even into my adulthood. I am still seeking God for His grace and other answers and not giving up.

In light of all of this, I also encourage people to spend time with one another eating at one another’s tables instead of being about work and performance. This is the attitude Mary chose while Martha concerned herself with making everything perfect. Obligation driveness  and people pleasing out of fear of being disqualified is what society has wrongly taught us. It is far better to love someone from the heart. Don’t allow anyone to doubt your ability and willingness to serve (at least “correctly”) when you have a servant’s heart who wants to give to people what is best for them. There are no persons succeeding at the expense of the other or rejection or disqualification when we work together in cooperation, unity, and harmony since together, everyone achieves more.