Why can’t all Christians be on the same page?

As a peacemaker, this confuses me as much as it disturbs me. The bible is proof that all of the members of the body of Christ are to be in unity. Here are some verses that support Christians being united and not divided.
1 Corinthians 1:10
10 I appeal to you, brothers, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree with one another so that there may be no divisions among you and that you may be perfectly united in mind and thought.

Ephesians 4:1-3
1 As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. 2 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. 3Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. 4 There is one body and one Spirit-just as you were called to one hope when you were called- 5 one Lord, one faith, one baptism; 6 one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all.
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Sadly, this is not what I am seeing in the body of Christ. In Galatians 6:1, it says that we are to restore fellowship to a loved one or fellow sister or brother who is sinning.

I am struggling with dealing with friends who are living in some sort of sin, but when I turn to the elders with the gift of prophecy, (my gift is mercy) whom are supposed to be unbiased ministers of reconciliation, they will tell me to turn against them as an act of responsible prudence, since “I don’t need” such people in my life.

A true peacemaker will not be biased and tell one Christian to get rid of someone else who is a Christian because they are not fitting into “their” definition of righteousness.

I admit, I am selfish towards my closest friend and we have our spats and disagrements, and yes, I do not trust her 100%, yet I chose to stick by her and see her through without giving up on her and turning my back on her no matter what the cost, unless she does something blatantly dishonest. I know God has called me and my friend, who is also a very helpful nanny to our 4 year old son to stick together in unity.

Proverbs 15:22 states that if you surround yourself with many counselors, your plans will succeed. But Jeremiah 17:5 says we are cursed for trusting in man (and whose heart turns away from God.) I have been seeking God as wholeheartedly as can be expected in these crazy last days. I do put my trust and faith in the Lord more than anything or anyone, seeking him in all I do asking for wisdom and direction, yet I feel as though I am not getting as far as I have been called to go. I still revisit the fact that I need the cooperation of other members of the body of Christ to be my allies and be interested in helping me promote unity in the church including between me and my Christian friends, whom God has put into my life. What God has put together, let no man separate. It just doesn’t talk about marriage.  

In Matthew 18:15-17 Jesus gives options about how to deal with someone who sins in the church. Some people I see clearly however are abusing what it says in Matthew 18:17, treating people who are struggling with sin as pagans, thinking that they don’t listen or care about the truth when they do care about what’s right in their hearts.

I know how hard of a challenge it can be for Christian leaders to tell what’s really in the hearts of people who are having struggles, e.g. alcoholics.

However, I just don’t see “kicking someone out of my fellowship” as an act of tough love as the appropriate answer when my friend(s) and I are having disagreements.

Galatians 6:1 encourages us to restore someone in sin to gentleness, but when I turn to an elder for assistance with a dispute I am having with a close Christian friend, it is drawn way out of porportion!

1 Thessalonians 5:14 also says to rebuke those in sin, but encourage the weak and be patient towards all. I don’t see this hardly!
If Christians are supposed to be in tune with God and the Holy Spirit, why is it that they are still in disagreement with each other? It just doesn’t make sense to me.

The very thing that I am passionate about, unity, fellowship and true friendship in the church, is also what’s affecting me in my personal life.

God brings people into my life, yet at the same time sends church elders to come in who disapprove of the behavior of friends He chose when I have a problem. This gives the devil a chance to use the situation for evil by causing seeds of discord being sown. Egads! We’re supposed to restore them to fellowship, rebuking them where necessary, holding them accountable, but don’t turn your back on them! True, when people are disobedient, we are to not associate with them, but too many in the church are judging fellows brothers and sisters as being disobedient where they are not.

In Proverbs 6:19, God hates those who sow discord among the brethren. Not to mention that members of the body of Christ or the “brethren” as I like to call them, especially those in the American church, are not all in sync or harmony when it comes to what matters most, the ministry of reconciliation, which includes having passion for those who have lost their way and wooing them by being the compassionate and merciful hands and feet of Jesus, giving them grace instead of so call tough love. Jesus didn’t die on the cross so that we would be divided Christians! The celebration of the resserection of our Lord, still rings in my heart as a time of peace, harmony, love, mercy, jubilee and inclusion.

There are some uncommon challenges that people face, which causes others to look down on them with scorn for not conforming to the mold. I am getting weary of seeing the church self-righteously pointing fingers at people instead of being understanding of their challenges. When we sew Mercy, we are to reap Mercy. I trust in God for His word not to return void in this area. I am being challenged by others right now because of the mercy I show my friends instead of giving them what they define as tough love. But I have to remain strong and villigant, trusting and believing that I am doing right by God.  I trust God to make all wrongs right, not just for those who obey his laws perfectly but also for those who stumble.

There is too much at stake and bigger fish to fry then people not conforming to the “natural social order of norms!”

What seems to matter more to the church is the manner in which people in extenuating circumstances are expected to behave, and other trivial irrelavant matters verses the importance and essential matters of the heart that are supposed to carry more weight such as reconciliation, acceptance, fellowship, compassion, mercy, forgiveness, lovng Christ-centered friendships, giving needed and very useful aid, giving wisdom that works and is beneficial and right for the person, and helping them heal from the hurts they have already sustained, thereby giving them new hope in what Christ our risen Savior has done for us!

Pray for me everyone! I am dealing with something that hits home for me right now, which influenced this article. I will close with this last verse.
James 5:16 Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.

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Autism Awareness, one of God’s Purposes

In case I didn’t tell you already, I am actually on the autism spectrum. This is why I have had the unique struggles and experiences that I shared in this blog. This is Autism Awareness month. One of God’s great purposes is to bring more awareness to people on the autism spectrum. It may seem like people like us might be living in a dream world, and in a sense we are. However, I believe we have more of a gift of seeing more specifically of how things were supposed to be in the Garden of Eden. All though we all long for the paradise that was lost, people on the specturm see things of what could be but aren’t. We learn life the hard way, not understanding why other people are not affirming our values, loves and interests. We subconciously believe the world is better than it really is. Some people on the spectrum therefore get a rude awakening about how fallen this world is exactly. We also can’t seem to be on the same page as nuerotypicals.

I am into culture, animals, nature, music, science which are all beautiful and therapuetic. These are things there are all the moreso therapuetic for people on the spectrum. The problem is these interests are not cheap. For me and for many others I am sure life has been a quagmire of an existence in which we desire lovely beautiful things that are considered to be a luxury to neurotypicals, who still take them for granted, yet our condition can cause us to not advance enough in life to afford these things that we cherish. This is one way life is cruel towards those with ASDs. For instance people on the specturm access these loves via entertainment, travel, and hobbies which are considered privleges, not rights by most people’s standards. The people who can afford these interests who have been able to work hard, earn and deserve them often don’t cherish these things like people on the spectrum do. Their motives are more worldy and materialistic, and so they chase after things money can buy to fill a void, a void that only God can fill. What’s interesting is that one not need to be materialistic to enjoy travel, pets, music, nature, cultural events, concerts, and other recreational enjoyments. The desires of people on the specturm, which for most are also emotional needs, don’t go away when they accept Christ. In fact, becomming a Christian can cause them to treasure them all the more. God is the mastermind behind nature, music, animals, dancing, romance, beauty, cultural performances, because they all related to His creation and relationships. I think when the Phillipians 4:8 tells us to focus on what’s lovely, noble, true, right, and admirable it is telling us to focus on things that radiate such qualities, such as the things I mentioned above. People on the spectrum, even those who are unsaved can see what these things are moreso than nuerotypicals. God has a reason for more people on the spectrum being born. God will be using this new wave of people on the spectrum to change the world, putting the wise to shame and helping Him bring the kingdom to earth. It will be based upon what he commands in Phillipians 4:8, which is no fantasy or pipe dream. Bringing the kingdom to earth, which consists of beauty, truth, people affirming one another’s true callings, joy, pure pleasure, peace, living in harmony is real and authentic. God is glorified by these interests we embrace so much. What makes paradise paradise is God’s presence as well as all of the qualities and characteristics that define Him like beauty, sweetness, goodness, wonder, awe, magnificense, splendor, truth, perfection and most of all love and therefore give God glory. Right now, we live in a fallen world where paradise has been lost and people on the spectrum in their childlikeness, see more of what’s missing. Yes, we need to accept the reality of this fallen world we live in, yet we do not stop believing and having faith of what could be. We are commanded to do what we can do glorify God on earth, being in the world, but not of the world, doing even more works than Jesus did. So let’s keep dreaming, believing in God’s promises and the truth of His word, using our unique talents to make this world a better place before Jesus comes back!

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Mercy, the Epitome of Grace!

Mercy, the Epitome of Grace!.

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Mercy, the Epitome of Grace!

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Mercy was granted an opportunity to serve through Summits Therapy Animal Services tonight. She visited with special needs kids at a special therapy dog event at a local community center. There were other dogs there and there was even a miniature horse! Mercy displayed the virtues of Jesus Christ including patience, grace, and mercy. She was happy to be with then as Jesus was in Mark 10:13-16. There was one kid who tried to poke her in the eye. Mercy still accepted him unconditionally. Friendly dogs accept people without judging them, no matter what mistakes they make. I thank God for this opportunity. I just know with your prayers that He will continue to open doors for me and Mercy! Jesus (and Mercy) loves the little children, all the children of the world! Yellow, red, black and white, they’re all precious in his sight. Jesus loves the little children of the world!

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Mercy sharing the love of Christ with special needs children

Mercy sharing the love of Christ with special needs children

Mercy is so patient and gentle with children just like Jesus was in the Bible!

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Praise Be to God!

Sorry, I haven’t posted on here in a while. I give thanks to God for His blessings. Mercy did get her Therapy Dogs Inc. certification back in October. In fact, her certificate was issued the same day as my last post. It came in the mail a few days later. Mercy is visiting an assisted living home for now. My goal is to eventually take Mercy to visit with hurting children. I am working on that.

Mercy actually received her AKC Community Canine back in January.

Now, Mercy and I are taking Novice classes at Warrenton Kennel Club. I went to the park to practice our homework exercises for this class. After practicing our exercises, Mercy had a play-date with her other Golden Retriever pal Bauer. My pockets were full of bags of treats and my homework handouts, so it was hard to fit my keys in them. My friend and I were both giving Mercy treats for being such a good girl. Then it was time to say goodbye. When I reached into my pocket to grab my keys, they weren’t there. Mercy and I therefore wandered back to the field where she and Bauer had been running and playing. I was already worrying about other things like finances, my cell phone having issues and Mercy’s weight. I nearly lost it. I knew what it would entail in both hassle and expense to get new keys re-made. I knew God wouldn’t let me down, but had I not found my keys, my faith would been crushed. I even asked Mercy to sniff out my keys for me. Finally, I saw them in the middle of the field. Praise God! After I picked the keys up, I looked up to the beautiful late afternoon sky with alto-stratus clouds and a last quarter moon, and while hugging my keys, gave God thanks.

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More grace for the less experienced please

I so love Golden Retrievers in case it was not obviously already. Even though I don’t show my dog, it is interesting to watch other Goldens in the ring. I subscribe to Golden Retriever News and I love the ads in those magazines. I think about how I would absolutely love to get to know other Golden Retriever enthusiasts better. I long to connect with Golden people better and be accepted and approved by them as well as get help from them. I also would like people in the inner Golden Circle especially those who produce beautiful healthy sound Goldens to be gracious and merciful towards the less experienced Golden Retriever owners and lovers. I tend to make more social mistakes than most people, and it often bites me in the butt later. I do still have alot to learn. When I ask questions out of curiousity, they often come across as maliciously rude to others. I do see the world a little bit differently and notice the types of details that people don’t notice or at least don’t think I have the right to notice. I have Pervasive Developmental Disorder, which causes me to have unintentionally break social rules since it means I might be on the autism spectrum.

Unfortunately, some people who are at the top of their game are also self-righteous as their super performance inflates their ego and puffs them up, so they are therefore less than gracious towards the less experienced who might also lack supportive connections that they themselves do not lack. When someone commits a social faux pass, even when their hearts are right, some of the inner circle breeders or inner circle members of any group might take it the wrong way, and fault you for something greater than you intended. God looks at the heart, while some elitists look at appearance and behavior. If you mess up before some people know you for who you really are, they can be very critical, fault finding, and judgmental. I choose to educate people including people in high places about having more patience and grace towards those who are less versed and less experienced about what a life of prestige and privilege is like. As I try to understand the world of Golden Retrievers, I ask that people with more experience in life than I do to bear with me, support me and accept me for who I am and have patience and grace towards me when I stumble in my conduct. I am still learning.  

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